Mitzi’s Happy

The battle cry for many women.

Wow, I had seen a TikTok somewhere, and it was speaking to this sentiment, that a woman will testify about the tremendous challenges that she may be going through, and whatever they are, she will end the sentence with “I’ll figure it out.”

Yeah, that has been my own battle cry. I’m considering writing a book on the five biggest times in my life that took the ground from underneath me, that started with the event followed by “I’ll figure it out,” and maybe the 6th time in my life that is yet to be determined 🙂

There is a second part to this, which is connected, and maybe a cause. That is the “I can take it”

“I can take it” can cause a person to stay too long in places they aren’t wanted. “I can take it” can cloud a person’s view of what is needed, and right. Women especially can wear it as a badge on their soul. “No, I didn’t deserve that, but that person is hurting, and I can take it.”

Saying that just triggered a memory of a time I expressed concern about an adult who was unnecessarily showing anger towards me. The person I was talking to told me that it was because I was a safe space. He meant that I could take it. Even though I had gone to him for help in the situation, I was turned around, expected to “Figure it out.” And there is the connection.

I did take it, and I did figure it out. But I shouldn’t have been expected to. Just because I can absorb someone’s anger, shouldn’t mean that it be an expectation. But how many women are shown that it is part of our responsibility to “take it?”